Madison MAlone AZ - Staying Married For The Kids

Marriages are very difficult to make work these days. There’s no doubt about that. Couples that can make their marriages work are to be admired because they’ve found the secret to staying happily married. They don’t give in when it seems that everything is falling apart. Instead, they dig in their heels and start to attack the problem or problems in their marriage with a determination that shows how serious they are about keeping their marriage together. 

Then, there are the couples that decide they want to stay married just for the sake of any young children that they may have together. While on the surface, this may seem like a caring action, it may not be that at all. Instead, it may be something that’s rather damaging to the children involved. 

Consider that your kids aren’t idiots. It doesn’t matter how hard you try to fool them, most children will pick up on the undercurrents of the problems that the two of you are facing. There’s tension that cannot be hidden, no matter how much you attempt to sweep it under the rug. They understand that something’s not right. This gets even worse when the two of you are sleeping in different rooms when that was something you never did in the past. 
If you’re going to attempt to continue a dead marriage for the sake of your children, there are certain things that you’ll need to do if you really want it to work out for them. For one thing, you must treat each other with respect and civility, at least when the kids are around and they can hear you. Save your knock down drag out fights for when they’re out of the house and have no danger of walking in on the two of you. They’re not going to believe you if they hear you screaming and fighting with each other. 

Something else to consider is how far you want to perpetuate the lie. If the kids are really young, it’s possible that they won’t notice a lot of things that older kids will. However, young children do grow up and become more cognizant of what’s going on around them. As they do get older, they may start to ask questions. This may be the time to sit down with them and explain some things. You may try telling them that even though Mommy and Daddy aren’t in love like married people anymore that you still care about and respect each other and you want to provide a nice home for them. This one works out well if you and your husband really do still like each other. 

You do need to consider that if you and your husband really can’t stand to live under the same roof any longer, it’s not a great environment for your children. Under these conditions, staying together for the kids isn’t a very good idea. They’ll suffer much more if they live in a stressful home than if they travel between two happy ones. Children survive divorce every day and as long as you and your husband have their best interests at heart, yours can, too. 

xoxo 
Madison

Sometimes It Really Is Just About Sex - Madison Malone AZ

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Many times when two people meet, there’s an almost palpable chemistry between them that anyone else in the room can also feel it. This is a sensation that’s almost impossible to ignore. It’s all totally physical at that moment. You look at each other and all you really want to do is start tearing off your clothes. This is a feeling that can hit before you even know each other’s names.

Lots of times these couples just leap into bed, or the back seat of a car, or the nearest public restroom. They give into the instant gratification and don’t bother to say much more than Hello. This is very often a mistake because they’re not on the fast track to anything other than a lot of “one night stands.” They have nothing in common and they don’t wait long enough to find that out. Instead, they give into those physical urges and soon find themselves in a somewhat empty relationship. 

If you manage to stay together at least a couple of months, you’ll find that the only time you’re not fighting is when you’re having sex. You may also find that you have sex just to keep from fighting. Having sex may be a way to cure the boredom between the two of you. There’s not a lot more to your connection than the physical one. 

You start to wonder how this can happen. Oddly enough, sometimes it really is just about sex.  Hormones can wreak all sorts of havoc with your body and an unexplainable attraction is one of the ways that happens. Sometimes it’s all you can do to resist this attraction. So, in many cases, you don’t resist. The only thing is that it doesn’t take away the lust after just one time. 

As to whether or not you should walk away from a situation like this, it depends on what sort of person you are. If you’re capable of an unemotional attachment such as this, go for it. You’ll be able to take whatever good things you can from it and then move on. On the other hand, if you’re more of an emotional or sensitive type, you might want to stay away from an attachment such as this. Your emotions will get all tangled up with your physical attraction which means that you’ll keep getting your feelings hurt. Also, you won’t understand why nothing about this relationship is working except for the sex. 

Many times, unfortunately, people that are attached to others will experience these sexual connections. This is difficult because if this happens to you, it will start to confuse you about the relationship that you’re already in. The best way to resist the temptation is to understand you may find yourself attracted to others but that doesn’t mean you’re not still in love with your partner. 

You just need to learn how to understand what’s happening to you if you do meet someone that sends an inner flame from your toes to the top of your head. Understanding will help you to move on from it without any mistakes made. 

xoxo

Madison

Madison Malone AZ - Be Yourself And Only Yourself

There are a lot of guys out there that have seen television shows and movies that have one of those dating guru type guys promising to get you any woman you ever wanted to fall madly in love with you. There are also websites that you’ve probably seen along with eBooks all over the internet that promise you the same things as well. While these “guru’s” are making quite a lot of money with their promises, what they aren’t telling you is that it’s all a scam. They want you to give them their hard earned money so that they can go out and buy things while you sit at home reading their information.

For the most part, these guys promise you the world but very rarely ever deliver. In fact, if you actually look at what they are trying to sell you, you will find that all you have to do is go out and act like a jackass, and you will get laid every night of the week. The truth is, any woman that would fall for any guy that acts that way deserves the relationship she ends up with. If you want to have a real relationship, then you are going to have to be yourself.

Being yourself is one of the hardest and most important things that you can do in order to gain the trust that a relationship is based on. If you go into the beginning of a relationship with her thinking you are some flashy rich guy, and it turns out that you drive a Pinto and live in your mother’s basement, when she finds out you can pretty much kiss any chance of being with her again goodbye. Women don’t want to be lied to, even if it’s something small, and starting a relationship out this way will cause it to end very quickly.

All those gurus want you to ACT like you are confident when the truth is you should BE confident. There is no reason for you to act like you are confident it you really aren’t. The woman you are interested in is going to know right away if you have the confidence to be with her or not. Think of it as eating fast food your entire life and suddenly finding yourself in a 5 start French restaurant, ordering wine in French. The waiter is going to know that you aren’t from France, and she is going to know you aren’t confident.

The best thing to do is be truthful and honest with her. Tell her that you don’t have the money to go out to a fancy restaurant, then turn around and make a romantic picnic out of things you can afford. Do something small but elegant to show her who you are on the inside and you will find that it will impress her much more than trying to pull off the bad boy routine that you just paid $29.95 for online. The choice is yours, but making it the right choice is what she deserves from you.

xoxo

Madsion